Yesterday “the 8th of June 2011″ was our second anniversary since the “first time” I met my wife, which was in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates, and alongside yesterdays anniversary I believe we have another couple of anniversaries, and probably we will have another “dozen ones” in the years to come. For us, we like to consider our lives together, as a whole period of continuous celebrations, not because we’d like to remember.(since we remembered yesterdays anniversary “today”)
Before I met my wife, life to me was all about working, eating, drinking and sleeping, and “a lot of other stuff” passing time as if it is something I am “counting” and I need to accomplish it or wait on it to finish me and hope to have some fun out of it. But the transition period from “my life” to “our life” in the Arab Emirates,”I have learned” that meeting the right woman, can truly turn your life around in a “great” or an “awful” way, so I always like to believe that “I must be lucky” to have this woman not only by my beside, but supporting me like I have never had support in my life, sometimes I even find my self wondering “I must’ve done something really good” in order to “deserve and meet” such a great woman.
Not because she’s undoubtedly cute, and has a smile that can light up the whole day, but the energy and excitement she brings to my “everyday life” is one of the many reasons, why I love to do whatever she loves doing, as she makes everything fun and amazingly simple and pure. Like any successful relationship, there has to be balance “at all times”, and where “money” is considered an essential part of any form of relationship.
That is why “no matter” what amount of money I have, it never meant to stay in my pockets nor it ever reached any bank accounts, “it is commonly believed that money and I just don’t mix well” and whether I have a Dollar or a Million, It “will” disappear like it never existed, and that is why thankfully, I turned all our personal finances to my wife.
“I know what you’re thinking”, and actually, where I come from “culturally” that is the exact definition of “emasculating a man”, where he has no control over his finances, and where it is almost “impossible to witness” in the Arab world, but you would definitely “witness the opposite” where men takeover their wives fortunes, even-though they have no legal rights to. (Read Sexual Education for masculine communities)
It is also considered “common thinking” in the Arab world, that women “cannot be responsible” when it comes to household finances, and we usually relate it to their “shopaholic” syndromes they appear to always show, and where unfortunately “stereotyping” against women’s abilities in “responsibilities” are a daily practice in those communities. I found it very refreshing that my wife proves all men “wrong”. I can even proudly say: “without her” I probably would be dead, somewhere near a “Burger King” drive thru sidewalk. (Read Sense fulfilling food diet)
The reason why my wife is so efficient when it comes to “personal financial” matters and how to “stretch your dollar”, is not only due to her “Japanese culture” but her previous travels as well. Crossing the Asian Pacific going through the Arabian Gulf region “where we met” to the Middle east “my home” all the way up to Turkey, where she had the ability to break her own cultural barriers, and was able “not only” to adapt, but accept cultures around her “no matter how extreme”, and developed her own global culture as a true “Active minority”, and due to her down-to-earth natural personality, she identified terms of happiness to simplicity in our lives, and where she has full self-acknowledgment to symbolize happiness from within her self and her surroundings, rather than a “superficial” materialistic happiness our stereotype thinking can offer.
If we can all “Men & WOMEN” look beyond objectifying women, and appreciate the “countless blessings” that our women bring to our lives, whether its our Mom’s, Wife’s or sisters. the thought of life without them by our side makes life unbearable to enjoy “with or without money”.